Let's start things off with my favourite myth to debunk.
I started self-development work at the age of fifteen. My gorgeous mum, and wise old soul, knew from her own experience the importance of starting her kids on this path at a young age. And I genuinely couldn't be more grateful to her for instilling this practise within me.
So that means I've had ten years of being on this self-development journey already and I'm only twenty-five. Ten long years of hardship, struggle, and all with this slightly annoying level of self-awareness (when you're self-aware, there's no such thing as blissful ignorance *sigh*).
I don't say this to brag, there's nothing to brag about. You could start your self-development journey today and it wouldn't make a difference to how far along Becca at Yoga was (or claims to be) along hers. It's a completely individual process set with its own highs, lows and lessons to learn.
Now, I thought I appreciated and fully understood this when I embarked on a fulfilling career in self-development. What I wasn't ready for was the immense amount of pressure I felt to never reveal my own melt-downs now that I was coaching other women through theirs.
But surely, my breakdowns and my vast experience with breakdowns (because let me tell you I've had a wholeee lot of them) is what makes me so good at what I do? It's provided me with the wealth of knowledge and understanding to know exactly what my clients are going through, and how to get them safely out the other side relatively unscathed.
Logically this makes sense right? But in the world of entrepreneurship admitting you've had a day of wanting to eat ice cream whilst simultaneously crying and watching The Notebook for the 17th time, is somewhat frowned upon.
Our humanness is one of the most attractive qualities about us. We love knowing that we're not the only ones suffering or having a bad day. That there's nothing wrong with us simply because we feel like poop that day.
However, this has been one of the most toxic limiting-beliefs I have carried with me through this journey of growing and building my business. And it's something I wish we would speak more openly about in the self-development and entrepreneurial industry.
It's so easy for us to forget that the people we look up to including coaches, influencers, friends, family etc. don't have their sh** figured out 24/7 and neither should they have to.
Yes I can help you identify your biggest self-confidence blocks quicker than I can drink this sad cup of coffee sitting opposite me right now. No it does not mean I don't have to coach myself some days too.
I think it's soo important to take people off the pedestals we have placed them on and remember first and foremost they are human beings. Human beings with a beautifully complex array of emotions.
Human beings who have embarked on paving their own career path in life, and as inspiring as this is, lest us not forget it is also TERRIFYING.
Terrifying to be your own boss doing something you've NEVER done before. Don't get me wrong, it's ridiculously fulfilling and so worth it in the long run, but it's also a constant mental game.
You have to be your own cheerleader
You have to be super aware of life-work balance
You have to motivate yourself when the going gets tough (and trust me, it does)
You have to remind yourself to step away and spend precious time with your loved ones (whilst simultaneously trying to keep the fears of your business suddenly disappearing because you've taken a break, at bay)
And don't get me started on imposter syndrome.
Obviously there are incredible benefits to working for yourself as well, many of which I pinch myself everyday for having. I'm just saying we need to cut ourselves some slack, and to not expect so much from ourselves ALL. THE. TIME.
As the famous, yet slightly cheesy (but oh well) saying goes, "You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress." So cut yourself and each-other some slack please?
Thank you :)